Mommy Job

Ok, let’s be grown-ups here. <Chuckle, chuckle> Yes, I am such lousy adult! I still cringe at some things that I should talk about with my husband. Anyway, I digress.

I have been exclusively breastfeeding Sab for what seems to be any eternity. My back hurts most of the time, I can’t wear my favorite pre-pregnancy blouses to avoid looking like I have silicone on, I need to be awake late nights for feeding, AND I need to constantly pump at work or anywhere for that matter! Time-consuming, laborious, and repetitive…these are the words to describe breastfeeding.

For 8 months now (5 days short, ok…), I have done what many mommies have done. Breastfeeding or not, I think the same words can be exacted to all those who are taking care of their precious babies.

Mommies wake up every now and then, at short periods, to the crying of their babies and soothe them until they are comfortable again to go back to sleep.

That’s just the goal actually, and to keep them safe and healthy. You know, I have never really understood hard work until now. Having someone completely and 100% dependent on you entails all your patience and actually, love.

And it’s almost instinctive, this love is, for your child. After all, you bore this person in your womb, what else do you need for instant connection?

Anyway, motherhood and also to mention, and in fairness and equality, fatherhood, is many splendid things.

 

Half Year Mark!

Naipon kwento ni Mommy!

In all honesty, tinamad ako magsulat and just wanted to stare at baby pics all day. If only that would pay the bills, diapers, and yaya…

ANYWAY, Sab is growing up well and good. She likes her kamote and is able to wiggle her butt up in her effort to move spaces. She’s super active and distracted at most times that her daysleep is shunned to almost a minimum. In short, tulog manok sya na talaga. Even bottle feeding her is given up by many people and is lasted only by her yayas or by my mother-in-law (“Akin na bata, titiyagain natin yan!”).

Like most working parents, we only get to play and spend long hours with Sab on the weekends. We maximize that to the extent na pagputok palang ng araw, nasa activities part na kami. hahaha Kumbaga sa sports, walang warm-up or down-time part, action lang. Sab is so excited during this time na akala nya gagala sya everytime na gigising sya!hahaha She just takes power naps and sleeps through the night to regain her strength. Ang cute talaga and we’re too excited as well!

Sab also went to Baguio last week, this being her first. Of course, like all marathons, this we prepared for months. We did training going for short trips within city limits and also by going for regular trips to my Parents’ in Antipolo. There was also that one time Kevin planned 1 year wedding anniversary for us in Tagaytay which ended up with clingy Jimenez’s coming along with us. haha It was also a good trip but I knew by then in my heart that Sab have a hate-hate relationship with her car seat. She wants to make dungaw in the window with my arms almost dangling off. Ambigat nya na for me talaga.

What I like most about Sab is she is not hard to take care of at all. It’s as if she knows her circumstance and cooperates accordingly. I’m her mom so I’m biased, but really, she has been so good to me since Day 1 and I keep thinking to myself how did I deserve such a sweet and loving baby.

I do hope she grows up like how all parent’s wish their child to be: God-fearing, loving, and happy.

She’s going to be 6 months come April 1st and by all means, I should be planning for her 1st REAL birthday party!

Let the games begin!IMG_4564

 

 

Having enough #Squad

I know, #squad is so Taylor Swift ago but I cannot find a better and more timely term that encapsulates having enough support group to be able to raise a baby. Remember, it takes a village.

I am grateful that I have my in-laws nearby and my family are always around but it is hard to ask them to commit as they are also leading busy lives. But be that as it may, they are always welcome (though sometimes reluctant) to the idea that they might be assigned to take care of Baby Sab for a few hours or a whole work day.

Good thing also my work is 20mins. walk from home so I can easily manage to go home in case of dire need. It’s funny now that I always see people strolling as I walk (scurry!) past them and think to myself that pretty sure, these people have no baby to go home to. As in, I am like a horse with blinders. Heading right straight to home. Every single second counts with each move already laid out in mind. Oh, how moms work are nothing short of miracle! hahaha I am praising myself but it is true for moms everywhere and more so of moms to more than 1 child. They might be gods being able to juggle everything when in fact I am about to break down thinking I cannot take care of my one little baby.

Anyway, since we don’t have yaya, we ask friends or relatives to cover for us on certain time of day or days of the week. It is hard and sometimes, I feel bad having to ask, but we are faced with this reality and we have to work on it. On certain days, worst case is that, we have to excuse ourselves at work, which is something I am always adamant to do. But I cannot leave my baby as she is now my topmost priority and yet we need cash! So striking a balance and finding out how you can work with your support group is key in first few months.

Just ask them, I’m sure they are willing to lend a helping hand.

Thus, the the story of a modern day family with a frazzled mom always on the lookout for her baby.

Working Mommy

Many mommies have written about it…having to work at the office while taking care of a baby and still have a healthy dose of sanity.

But most working mommies, albeit just deciding on resigning and being a full-time mom, does not discuss about negotiating with their bosses about their situation.

I’m a first time mom and having first time pains and these things, I should be able to discuss with my bosses so we can work around the situation. For example, I breastfeed and need to pump at least 2x a day, there should be a time of day and place for me to do this. For which, I am grateful to my Company as they have been supportive and understanding of my situation ever since I knew about my pregnancy.

At the onset, I informed my boss even at 9wks that I was expecting. Ever since then, they don’t question my extended sleeping hours during lunch time and my nap breaks in between work. I know, it is sort of an abuse, but my morning sickness which extended till afternoons have been unkind, good thing my bosses are not.

This time however, I do not want to extend the same leniency they have given. I have been absent numerous times and needed to leave at the middle of working day. So this time, I will need to create a solution that will work for me and the Company and it will start with having a discussion with my bosses on this.

Many working moms here in Philippines need not resort to resignation immediately. I love my Company as it has given me wonderful opportunities and has supported me in many ways. I believe, this time, there can be something workable for both of us and have continued and long lasting relationship in spite of circumstances.

That being said, I think this can work for many moms out there, too.

Let me know your experience! I’ll be glad to learn how to nego.

 

Fantastic Yayas and Where to Find them…

Frustrated does not even begin what I am feeling right now.

Me and my husband, Kevin, have been looking to what feels like eternity for someone to take care of Sab. We have asked everyone from our friends, to our parent’s friends, to our parent’s friends in the provinces, to our company drivers, staffs, and what not even before our baby was born. There have been leads, not saying I am no less grateful, but circumstances had led me desperate and down-trodden.

Alam mo yun feeling na walang isang taong magaaruga (mommies don’t look for magaalaga, we don’t settle less than “aruga”!) at pinagpapasa-pasahan ang baby mo bawat araw? Nakakaiyak talaga.

Agencies and many nanny horror stories have forced many moms to work at home. But as to why we should deal with that and sacrifice having a corporate work-at-the-office life, I do not, for the life of me, understand. Men do not have to deal with such stress and idea since they are expected to continue with their day jobs. But I don’t like to draw out the feminist card, it is not the point here.

The point is the sacrifice of having a baby is there and exists but should not be because lack of proper care to our babies. There should be a place where mommies can leave their babies without having to constantly worry. I think there is market for it now since nannies are demanding and erratic and no less effective in child’s development (let’s face it, an 18 yo girl from Samar won’t sing or read books to your baby). I hate it when people tell me to make “tiyaga” to yayas nowadays. Today is different compared to our mother’s who are able to leave us to our lolas. My mom is still active and working so that is not an option anymore.

Hay, tell me guys where I can leave my baby and have my peace and chances are there’s a unicorn nearby, too.

Life with Baby Sab

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Sab at 10 weeks (Look at that waway!)
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Sab at 2weeks!
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Hatin’ on her carrots…
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Look at Sab oogling at a Birthday Party! (December 17, 2016)

Yun tuwang-tuwa ka sa sarili mong anak! yan ang feeling ng new parent.

Yun ‘di ka makaalis ng bahay o mawalay ka man sa anak mo, ‘di mapigilan tumitig sa video or picture nya or pilitin mabaling ang usapan para lang mabangit mo anak mo. hahahahaha It’s a shame that you almost feel sorry to the people you talk to but you just can’t help to constantly talk about your kid.

Isabella is super talkative and funny! She’s always a happy camper but of course, like her mommy, don’t let her go hungry. The first time I breastfed in public, in Megamall’s Kultura nonetheless, we stayed there for almost two hours (we waited for giftwrapping!) and  when I burped her, she let out a storm of a burp and surprised other shoppers. I laughed so hard, I cried. As in, she never burped so loud her entire life! lol Never a dull moment with my baby.

Anyhow, babies, although cannot speak, have feelings, too! So it is always best to be the calm mom you can be as they can sense fear. In my 2.5 months experience, I found out that Isabella cannot sleep at night without being lullaby-ed which is only time of the day she’ll go crazy crying. She likes it also when you sing or whistle or talk to her and likes being out of the house in the veranda where there are birds and trees and fresh air. That calms her down and allows her to see life outside. It’s also good to be observant and know your baby so you can be on top of things.

Milestone this week is being able to bathe Baby Sab without a drop of tear! She cries every single bath time only to find out that she didn’t like the temperature of her bath water (she liked it a bit cooler!). Little things make a ton of difference.

Like being sensitive to cues so you can put her in her cot half-asleep that results with her actually sleeping.

Ang hirap manganak and hirap lalo paglabas. But there is a certain and unexplainable joy when two persons create a family and it began with Isabella for us.

Have a Merry Christmas, everyone! Enjoy the Holidays!

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Sab and Tatay (Powerplant, December 2016)

Married and Adulting

Time is a social construct. Char.

After months of pregnancy, I am still pregnant and ready to pop. I swear to god, when you reach your 8th month, you’ll be likely to just want to get over and done with it.

The journey to this stage is very meaningful with friends and family and colleagues being ever so supportive. Of course, there’s the husband who made it all happen. hahaha

It’s very exciting to become a parent. I wanted triplets but God opted to give us a singlet. NO COMPLAINS. Ang hirap pala! I cannot move as freely as I want to. But I have fairly good pregnancy. No complications or any scare so I am just eternally grateful for that.

I just hope and pray that I’ll have natural birth. I’m so aiming on it as it is not only good for the body, it is good for the pocket. Basically, all these mommy talk most of my friends still cannot understand or relate. But I hope to be able to share it with them when their time comes. The travails of expecting and but not wanting anything else (except for clothes that actually fit thereafter).

I’ll be a nanay come next month but then again, this thought has yet to fully sink in. My and Kevin haven’t gone through the whole nine-yards of honeymoon stage and here we are debating on the necessity of a “swaddle”. But most of the time, I’m just thinking is what food I want to eat but not get THAT fat. You know what I mean? I bought already all these baby stuff, which, by and large, are gifts from well-meaning friends and family. My boss also gave me these cute formal looking onesie with booties. I’m like, I want one for myself. I kid you not. As an excited first time mom-to-be, going to so many baby stores, you’d realize there are so many created needs for babies and moms. They delve deep into the emotional value of motherhood that creates albeit, a billion dollar industry.

I will not buy an electric sterilizer…ommmm….